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Turn Irritation Into Insights And Interest

Everyone has things they’re bothered by. These things create negative feelings, but often are not actually problems. In this episode, Dan Sullivan and Shannon Waller talk about recognizing when the only thing wrong with a situation is that you’re bothered by it, and what’s best to do in those situations.

Here’s some of what you’ll learn in this episode:

  • The question Dan asks himself to determine whether there’s a problem.
  • What can be gained by thinking of something as a project instead of a problem.
  • The thought that led Dan to being much more appreciative of others’ differences.
  • How what seems like irritation might actually just be you learning about something outside of your world.
  • How suspending negative emotional reactions leads to learning something new about time use.

Show Notes: 

  • Acknowledging the choice: You can learn an enormous amount by acknowledging that you’re making the choice to be bothered, and asking yourself if there’s a better use of your time.
  • Stop wasting energy: You can eliminate the wasted energy of being emotionally negative about situations where you have a choice whether to be bothered by them.
  • Notes to self: If you think about what’s bothering you in a situation, you can gain insights into how you can be better prepared next time.
  • Freedom for all: If you want the freedom to be unique, you have to also grant that freedom to other people.
  • Interested in others: If you’re interested in how other people think, those people will pick up on it.
  • Better engagement: If you eliminate your irritation with someone, you can better engage them about their thinking.
  • Makes sense: Something someone else does might be incomprehensible to you, but it makes sense to them.
  • Time is currency: Time is the great currency for growth.