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How To Lead with Authenticity – and Authority!

Are you putting yourself into “The Gap” without even realizing it? In this episode of the Team Success podcast, Shannon Waller talks about a common issue faced by many leaders: comparing themselves to other effective leaders. She explores the many pitfalls people face when trying to emulate others, including diminished confidence, performance, and teamwork, and reveals what to focus on instead to become your best, most authentic self. Tune in to learn more about how you can lead with authenticity—and authority!

Show Notes:

The downside of being a great leader is that others may try to compare themselves to you rather than using you as a source of inspiration, or you may compare yourself to people you think are even better leaders than you are.

When you compare yourself to someone else, you’re measuring yourself against an unrealistic ideal and putting yourself into “The Gap” where all you can see are your shortcomings rather than everything that makes you amazing and unique.

The question you should ask yourself as a leader is how you can be your best, most authentic self.

That makes self-awareness critical because it allows you to focus on your Unique Ability® and be transparent about both your strengths and your weaknesses.

When you’re working within your Unique Ability, you’re automatically providing value, solving problems, and finding creative solutions, and leadership is the natural result.

Trying to lead or provide direction in an area where you’re not proficient will negatively impact your team—and your business.

Being humble and asking for help when you need it demonstrates that you’re self-aware, you’re a team player, and you’re confident in other people’s ability to show up as their best selves too, all of which leads to incredible collaboration and bigger and better results.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, use them as inspiration for your own growth by writing down what you like about them and how you can learn from them.


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Episode Transcript:
Shannon Waller: Are you comparing yourself to someone else, especially in your leadership role? Would you like a new take or a new way to think about it? Stay tuned for Staying Out Of The Leadership Gap.
Hi, Shannon Waller here and welcome to Team Success. I was having a conversation with one of my very, very favorite clients and thinking partners. He and I are just very creative, especially when it comes to teams. We have a similar passion, which I love. It's so great to have kindred spirits with whom to share ideas. One of the issues that he pointed out that I thought, "Ooh, this would be such a great podcast" is something that he's experiencing. What he's experiencing is that most of his leadership are comparing how they lead to him. He's an incredibly effective leader, very conscious, very conscientious, very thoughtful. He and I both agree that to know thyself is one of the very, very first most important things you can do. He knows exactly what his strengths are, what his non-strengths are. He works very hard to be the very best leader he can be to help grow his team.
What he's finding is that his leadership team is comparing themselves to him. Now, what do we know when you compare yourself to somebody else? You're probably going to fall into what we call "The Gap." The Gap is measuring yourself against an unrealistic ideal. That's so critical because anytime you're measuring yourself against an unrealistic ideal, you're going to fall short. You're going to feel disappointed. You're going to try and contort yourself and be somebody you're not and berate yourself. That, frankly, does not make for a happy human being to be around or to be led by because you're always second guessing. You're always comparing yourself to an external reference point. Now, as fabulous as my friend is, is he perfect? I don't think so. I know I'm certainly not. Now, is he exemplary? Is there a lot to learn from him? Are there things you can be inspired by? Absolutely. I'm inspired by him. But that doesn't mean you need to compare yourself to him.

About the Author

Shannon Waller, Entrepreneurial Team Strategist, is a natural collaborator who instinctively saw that a thriving Unique Ability® Team can strengthen their entrepreneur, the business, and themselves. A win-win-win. Go, team, is Shannon’s rallying cry.

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